I should probably explain why I decided to start this blog in the first place. For me it’s simple! My passion has always been to help Military Spouses and Moms. Have you ever met a military mom who is trying to juggle it all? Many times they appear to the outside world they can manage it all. However, inside some of us are struggling just to get through another day. Another day closer to the time our deployed husbands are coming home.
The military is a different lifestyle and one not everyone can do, or even understand how others can tolerate the absenses. There is a special place in this world for the spouses who do so much to keep the family solid while their husbands are gone, fighting for all of us to be free. So many times people recognize the military member, but forget about the families and most importantly, the spouse! Fortunately today, some of this has changed. I recently attended an event where a 4 Star General spoke and he really shared how important the spouses are in the military. Much different then it was many years ago when my mother was a military spouse. It’s become even more prevalent today than when we were active duty. Times have changed and it sure wasn’t that long ago for us.
When I explain the complications of our communication when my husband was deployed, it makes it sound like we are many years older than we are. We had to make certain our timing was perfect! We had to coordinate our calendars and our clocks. We had to be certain we wee all close to the phone at that time of the connection.
My husband, Paul was deployed during Desert Shield/Comfort and cell phones were not what they are today. The guys stood in a long line waiting for their turn to speak to their families. Each one of them only had only 10 minutes to communicate with their loved ones back home. The base would make the connection to the nearest home base which in turn would make the call to our home. If the connection wasn’t great, it didn’t matter. You only had the alloted 10 minutes so a call back wasn’t an option. You just learned to hope the next call was better.
This seems almost barbaric in comparison to what it is now. When you had the 10 minutes to chat, you spoke about the good things and didn’t complain about the kids, the house or even your job. The typical things you could bounce back and forth with each other at home changed when you’re apart. Both parties felt the same way. The spouses deployed didn’t want to share what was happening overseas in their environment either. It’s almost as if we were protecting each other from the devastation of what was really happening.
We got through it as most military families do, but it wasn’t easy! When my husband came home and he wanted to help me with everything and even this was a challenge. I know many of you may be thinking, what? A challenge for his help? How could that be? Well, I will tell you that you begin to learn to be independent, strong and resilient on the outside anyway! It’s nearly as much of a challenge learning to reintroduce our spouses back into the family as it is to adapt when they are deployed. This was a big part of why I chose to begin blogging.
After we retired I knew our experiences and how we managed things could help other military spouses learn to process and work through these challenges. Many of my friends said I should write a book, but (as you may be able to tell), I never thought I could write, no less, write a book! I knew I wanted to help with my experiences as a life coach I decided to begin with a blog!
After I made this decision and began to research more about blogging I realized not only could I help military spouses and moms with family situation, but possibly earning an income part time too. I have coached for others with life, health and finances so why not tie it all together in one place.